Monday, May 23, 2011

“Wonder what life might be like if you could change one thing? DON’T”

I have often wondered what life would have been like if I could go back in time and change things.  What if I could have avoided this or stopped that tragedy from happening?  Wouldn’t it be nice if that someone was still around or if I had never lost that widget?  Wouldn’t life be grand?

All of that sounds great, but it donned on me the other day just how different life would really be. What we live through makes us who we are.  Sure we would all like to avoid that fire breathing demon we dated back in high school, but if we hadn’t been burned, we would never learn to avoid it the next time.  If we had never lost that friend or relative, we couldn’t grow from the experience.  I lost my father several years back, and frankly, I would still give anything to have him here today, but losing him shaped my life.  It played a big part in who I am, and without that horrible experience, better or for worse, my life would be much different today.

So don’t wish to hard for what might have been. Concentrate on what could be tomorrow.  Try to see life’s pot holes as an opportunity to strengthen your foundation. Look forward to life’s experiences and learn from them; and for those of us that married our fire breathing demons… well… God help us. Just kidding honey! Love ya!


  1. What you said about your father hit home for me. I lost my dad 4 years ago and damn, what I wouldn't do to have him back! But like you, his death taught me so many things and shaped who I am today. I guess the only thing you can do is to live in the present and have no regrets.

  2. Wonderful thoughts, Chuck. I was speaking to a friend the other day and half-lamenting our wasted university days, lost loves, losing close friends and family, and we realised that everything we have done or has happened to us in our lives had led us to that exact moment, and we were deliriously happy with everything, so there was no need to dwell too deeply. Live in the present, learn life lessons and apply them to the now, and we'll be infinitely happier as human beings :)